Do you “choose” yourself a mate, or is finding the perfect one just waiting for “fate” to bring them to you? You and I both know that no matter how we act, we really all want to be loved. And even when I try to fit in with people that aren’t living morally, deep down inside, all I really want is to do what’s right and to be accepted by God. Don’t you? The reason I’ve come this far off the given subject is that all in all, it’s more important to know who YOU are before you go looking to give yourself to someone else. Don’t you agree?
I have no authority to tell you what to do. I can relate to how you feel, because I feel the same way sometimes, but you and I are just fellow Christians having a conversation about something that’s important to us. If we want real answers that will help us in real life, I say it’s necessary to look to the Bible. If we don’t look to the Bible where else would we look? Jesus was asked, “to whom shall we go? Thou hast the words of eternal life.” (John 6:68). Jesus is the Word of God and vice versa (John 1:1).
Now here are a few simple things that I try to remember. Nobody says, “I can’t help who my friends are, they just come to me. They’re just ‘meant to be.’” That sounds ridiculous, yet at the same time everybody seems to be waiting to fall in love with that “special someone” who was made just for them. Undoubtedly the prayer of a righteous Christian avails much in choosing a mate (James 5:16). But we choose our friends as picky as we please, and I suggest to you that you can choose who you love in the same manner. What about the rest of your life? Would you or I like to spend all the rest of my days on earth with a girl who doesn’t understand the deepest commitment I’ll ever have? I honestly don’t think so.
The Bible will lead us every step of the way. Evil companionships corrupt good morals (1 Corinthians 15:33). A person you ‘love’ doesn’t seem to be ‘evil’ when he/she makes you feel happy. David felt no ‘evil’ in the ‘love’ of Bathsheba, but did he make himself happy in the rejection of God’s word? Read 2 Samuel 11-12. “O magnify the Lord with me and let us exalt his name together” (Psalm 34:3). That is really what I want for you and for me. When you find someone, you truly love and want to marry, I hope you can share in your commitment and your pilgrimage as you live in this world. For good or for evil the two of you will become “one flesh”, and undoubtedly you will make precious decisions that involve your soul because of your mate. I hope you make them for good.
