There may be many times when others either say things or do things merely because they want a reaction. There are those who appear to take delight in stirring the pot to see what rises to the surface in the responses of others. How often have we found ourselves taking the bait? How many times have we jumped in only to regret our impulsive reaction or words?
Someone has noted: “Not every comment deserves your reaction. Not every provocation deserves your time. When you choose silence over impulsive response, you are not avoiding the situation, you are rising above it. Strength is not always loud. Sometimes, strength is the calm decision to walk away, to breathe, to hold your dignity. You do not owe anyone access to your inner world unless you choose to open that door.” (shared by Tom Green; original source unknown)
Sometimes the wise response is that of righteous restraint! Rather than opening the door to revealing our first thought, giving ourselves a moment for further consideration, our second thought may be the wiser one.
Solomon noted. . .
“ (1) For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven: . . . (7) a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;” (Ecclesiastes 3:1 & 7 ESV)
And James exhorted. . .
“(19) Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; (20) for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.” (James 1:19-20 ESV)
In a world of instant news how often do we witness the negative impact of instant response tending to fuel heated debate rather than beneficial dialogue. This is not only in the arena of political debate, but also in religious discussion where walls are fortified rather than doors left open for constructive dialogue. Though there may be great boldness and power in speaking, it often requires greater strength to choose silence over speaking out. Sometimes the wise response is that of righteous restraint as we then give ourselves opportunity to consider what might best meet the need of the moment.
Paul urged. . .
“(29) Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” (Ephesians 4:29 ESV)
May we wisely consider the impact of our responses to others. Though speech might embolden, silence can be golden!
Have a great day RESTRAINING REACTION FOR RIGHTEOUS RESULTS!
Carl
